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There’s no shame in crying, my dear. Even at 72.

Readers of this blog and my Oregonian column are writing heartfelt, moving letters. The one below is excerpted from an email sent by “Rhonda” (not her real name). Her story is a poignant reminder of the profound, enduring loss felt … Continue reading

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From hell on earth, to her deathbed, to a resurrection

Katie and I were young when we separated for good. Or so we thought. We met as sixth graders in an east Multnomah County elementary school. The following summer she became the first girl I kissed. Katie had strawberry blond … Continue reading

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Parenting (and living) mindfully…

One of the areas I research and work in is mindfulness, and how it can be used personally, in families, and in the workplace to address stress and chronic disease that deplete people and the companies they work for. More … Continue reading

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When a father comes knocking…and then doesn’t

No truer words were ever spoken. http://www.facebook.com/photo.php?v=1091263815193

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Fathers, daughters, and hell on earth: The luck of the draw means life or death

Shocking beyond comprehension. That’s the only way I can describe the headline and story on the front page of The Oregonian’s Metro section March 1. “Verdict: murder by abuse.” I scanned the article’s sub-head–Donald Lee Cockrell of Sandy is found … Continue reading

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When a father leaves a hole in his daughter’s heart

This is from my monthly column that runs in The Oregonian, Feb. 21, 2013. “You will be the most important man in her life forever. When she is 25, she will mentally size her boyfriend or husband up against you. … Continue reading

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Last Words

Here is a contribution from a woman who’s written to me after reading some of my work. She shares her personal journey of coming to terms with her father. I want to describe the two last important times I shared … Continue reading

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Fathers, Daughters, and Finding Love as a Woman

A reader of my column in The Oregonian on Thursday Jan. 17 (http://www.oregonlive.com/books/index.ssf/2011/06/fathers_day_a_portland_father.html) shared her very personal story with me. I was so moved by it, I wanted to share it with you. Sadly, I am hearing so many stories … Continue reading

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For Better, For Worse: How Fathers Shape Their Daughters and the Luck of the Draw

Re-posted from The Oregonian, Jan. 17, 2013 “Reading Kevin Renner’s memoir of fatherhood prompts me to say to women, regardless of age, culture, or background: ‘Tell me if and how your father loved you as a child, and I’ll tell … Continue reading

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An Independent Life

When the snow starts to fly in the Cascade Mountains, I think of Joie Smith. Joie started a towing business more than 40 years ago at the base of Mt. Hood, and has rescued thousands of unfortunate drivers and their … Continue reading

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